Today I had my very first fight with my boyfriend. It was over my gift for my birthday. I've always been one to tease all of the time when it comes to Devin, and so I never bothered to tell him what to get me. I didn't care what he got me, because what I was really looking forward to was seeing his creativity, to see what he thought suited me, what he thought would be a nice thing to give me, you know? I just wanted him to show me that he cared about me, and particularly, to find some nice, pretty way to tell me he loved me. But when we were walking home today we were playing twenty-one questions over the gift, and he automatically assumed that the game was about what gift I wanted him to buy materialistically. And I was like " You know, you started with the wrong topic, you're supposed to ask about things I like in this game." And he got all mad, and it made me feel like I was materialistic, so I told him I wasn't materialistic and he started yelling at me saying that that wasn't what he thought he just didn't know what I wanted. I told him that I didn't want anything in particular, that I wanted him to buy me something that showed me he cared, and he said that he didn't know what I wanted again, there for verifying this with the fact that he feels he doesn't know how to buy gifts for people. So, I told him not to buy me a gift at all, and he said that he just wasn't sure and he didn't want to get me something I didn't like, and I said again " Then DOn't buy me anything." Because obviously he believed it was about getting me something I liked, or I wanted. I mean, with other people, friends and such, I would prefer that they take the time to ask me what I want, but he's my boyfriend, I would love anything he got me as long as it meant something to him when giving it to me. It was very upsetting and it kind of ruined my day. I thought I would share, on my sudden under-lying 'materialism' about emotional affection.
-Thisdarkness
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