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When Should You Tell Someone You Think They Have Gone Crazy?

Its not just a working title for this entry. Its a serious question. I should post it in chatter box and see what comes of it but I haven't. I could even write up a working entry to the journal to add to it. It could be interesting.

The reason this question has popped up here is because it seems to me like a lot of people just seem to be loosing it. I could be wrong. Maybe they are just driving me crazy? Could be that. I am not so sure anymore.

My lovely niece, who is not sweetangeltoes daughter, has done things time after time to make me think she has lost her mind. Her mother is the same way. Three of my cousins and now my son as well. But its not easy just to tell someone you think they have lost it.

For instance one married a girl he met on the net and they had a daughter. They got divorced. He married another girl he met on the net and she dumped him because he lost his job. Ok here is the part where I wanted to ask him if he was crazy... After he divorced wife #2 he got back on the net (after he got a job and got it hooked up again) and found wife #3. He had such good luck with wives 2 & 3 that I guess he just thought he had to try it again. I was thinking to myself... has he freakin' lost it??? Wife #3 seems to be doing ok. After the psycho wife #1 and the shallowness of wife #3 I thought for sure that he wouldn't try that again. Everyone seems to like wife #3 though.

Now my soon to be ex brother in law (NOT sweetangeltoes hubby) married my sister and after he got burned really bad in an accident she took off with some other guy. Mind you I thought she was nuts because he is a really nice guy and he really loved her dearly. She ran off with some creep who left her and her children in a motel in another state and she ended up calling her first hubby to save her. After some time with him she decided she wanted hubby #2 back so she went on pursuit and moved back in with him and then dumped hubby also known as ex-hubby #1 now. That lasted a while and he got sick and after a while she kicked out the hubby who is now soon to be Ex-hubby #2 and moved in yet another guy the next day who we will just call J here. That didn't last too long and she ended up with another guy we will call T. That didn't work out so well so she was back on soon to be ex-hubby #2's scent and they got back together. That lated a while and they split up again and then she was with V. She got tired of V or something and ended up with some guy who I will have to call F for forgotten because I can't remember his name and now she is with V again. For all of this I have to wonder if the sister ex-hubby #1 and soon to be ex-hubby #2 as well as V are all nuts. Soon to be Ex-hubby #2 says he still loves her but he gives up. If you could keep up with all of that you are doing very well. Its a freaking mess. But if any of them are nuts when should have I have told them so? By the way I like both ex-hubby #1 and soon to be Ex-hubby #2 and I think V is a really nice guy too. Maybe I am the one who is nuts but there is no way I would put up with this kind of stuff from anyone and I wouldn't chase after anyone who was bound to do this sort of thing.

Ok now there is another cousin... he has a very lovely wife and a nice home and a decent job and 4 lovely children. All of the sudden he is up and out of there and takes off to live in CA with some girl he met on line that he has never met before. Leaving everyone and every thing behind. What a wonderful way to tell your children how much you love them right? GRRRRR!!! Another nutso sign. Lucky for him it worked out for him for a while. But he is paying child support on 4 kids now. Way to go butt head! I hope she married a really nice guy when he left her and she is living like a queen and the guy loves her kids enough to adopt them. It would serve him right.

Now for the current one I am concidering to give a sign to. My oldest son. My oldest son is leaving for tech training as of tomorrow afternoon. When he gets back he is planning to moving to VA to live with some girl he met on some phone program that is called something like dial a flirt or something like that. He hasn't met her. But he thinks he is madly in love with her after just a few weeks of texting with her and talking with her on the phone and wants to MOVE IN with her. He thinks he knows everything about her. But I already know she doesn't have a clue that he is one of the messiest people I have ever known dispite everything I have done to try to prevent that. She doesn't know his habits and that he is sensitive. She doesn't know that he has never had a real relationship with a girl that has lasted more then a few weeks. But yet she seems to think this is a wonderful idea. For this one I am actually concidering giving both of them a You have gone crazy sign. I tried to advise him but as with most young people he won't listen. He will leave behind a guaranteed entrance to a college, a nearly guaranteed job and his entire family and everything he knows.

But now, When should you really tell these people you really think they have lost it?
And when should you hold off? If you have an answer on when I should tell my son feel free and tell me in a pm or comment for this journal.