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I thought to go a little lighter today. I decided to write about this girl at my wedding.

This girl I will call "A" was a friend of my sister in law's and we got to be friends although not what someone would call best friends. But I invited her to the wedding. She in turn asked me if I would like her brother to be the photographer. I told her I would love to have him take the photos and she said she talked to him and he would be there.

The wedding day came and he was not there. So all we had is our family to take pictures. That was ok. But there was one picture that always makes me laugh. I have this look on my face where you could tell I thought something was funny and yet not. Actually you could see two people in the photo. Me and A. A is bent over the bridal couple's table showing me something. A was showing me pictures of her wedding. And her rings. She proceeded to tell me how much better her rings and wedding were then mine. Right at my own wedding. To be honest I thought it was in very bad taste but funny as all get out. Mostly because... I was thinking "this woman is so stupid she just insulted the bride at her own wedding party in so many ways it shouldn't be funny, but it is!" The wedding was more then I ever wanted and I picked out the rings because they were tasteful and they were perfect for the two of us. I really didn't care what A or anyone else thought. I was more then happy because I was marrying the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. That was all I really wanted. I didn't care about the wedding as long as it was in a church. I didn't even care about a wedding reception or party or anything. I would have been happy getting married in blue jeans. I really didn't care about any of that stuff. If I had my way it would have been in jeans and it would have just been immediate family and it would have been quick and simple. I was looking forward to the honeymoon!

All these years later I laugh so hard when I find that picture that it takes me a good while before I can stop. Mostly because those rings of hers and those pictures of hers meant nothing because she was so shallow her waters were muddied when she got in them, she lost all of that. I don' t know if A realized how foolish she had been or not but I never saw her but one time after that. Although, I laugh when I think about it and see the picture I have to say that I hope she learned something from me. Its not the diamonds in the ring or lack of and its not the expense of the wedding or the amount of gifts you recieve, but its the love and attention you put into the marriage that really counts. Sometimes there can be too much icing on a cake and when that happens it can really ruin the cake.

Until next time....