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Indecision is the key to flexibility. 3nodding

You're really analytical, and what you write makes so much sense.

I wonder if it depends on the decision - are you prone to buying anything on impulse? ^^

What really interest me are impulse decisions - not necessarily rash ones, but just ones where we've got very limited time to consider them, and a nice strong instinct or impulse flares up and gives us our answer. As you say, sometimes if there is a stack of time between the decision and any action, you just sit there simmering and likely end up questioning your decision. Which was probably the best one.

Decisions can drive me nuts because of how easily they can just hang over my head. It's easy to put them off because they don't require any physical work, so I forget that they nonetheless require time sometimes. whee

You say you're not patient... but you know as well as I do that, on some things, you can be incredibly patient. It's the same with anyone I guess, no matter how impatient one can be. Everyone has a selection, no matter how small or large it may be, of things, people, or situations they allow themselves to be incredibly patient with. So why even bother mentioning such a minor detail... cause I'm me, and I like to argue! xp

Anyhow, I agree with what you said, and yes I know you are impatient as a whole... you've drilled it into my head enough times. But the world is full of different people, all of which are needed. I find myself being too patient at times, specially when it comes to other people. It's never been as apparent as it's been in the last little while though. I won't go into detail on that, so as to not bore others, but safe to say, sometimes impatience can be a source of much needed change. Things need to move forward, and awarding patience to a bad situation and letting it remain a bad situation is... ummm... bad... eek

So yeah, sorry about the rambling, just enjoyed reading the so called analytical post of a friend. heart

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Hmmm. I don't know that I'm 'prone' to impulse buying, but I do buy things on impulse from time to time. Kind of. About 90% of the time, whatever it is I'm buying on impulse is something I've been considering buying or planning to buy for a while, but wasn't planning to make the purchase quite yet, or had perhaps talked myself out of it previously. I'll give an example.

When I got an ipod a year and a half ago approximately, I had always intended that sometime following this purchase would be the purchase of an adapter for it to allow me to use it in my car, hooked up to the radio. An FM transmitter is what it's called, I believe. I put this off for quite a while though, telling myself that I'd wait until my finances were improved, that I could get by with listening to CD's in the car, etc.

Last year, I drove up north to spend some time with family during my time off from work right before Xmas, and took my PS2 with me. My first day there had me driving 30 miles to the nearest major town and a Best Buy to get something for someone that I'd promised to get them. While in the store, on my way to find my goal, I passed by a display of ipod accessories, FM transmitters among them. I noted it, renewed my determination to hold out longer, and purchased what I'd come for, then left.

The next day, I discovered that I had accidentally left half of the power cord for my PS2 at home. D: Since we were definitely looking forward to playing FFXII on this trip, I refused to accept that as defeat and so Xmas eve day found me once again making the 30 mile trip to Best Buy for a spare power cord. Again, I passed by the display of ipod accessories. This time, I decided that if I was going to drive to Best Buy two days in a row for other purchases and keep walking by the display, that I was just going to purchase the transmitter and give myself a treat while I was at it. And so I did.

xD; long story, but it's a classic example of an 'impulse' buy on my part.

I'm rather the opposite when it comes to decision making. I prefer to get it over with and then get on with things. When I have something undecided hanging over my head it tends to nag at me subconsciously.

Crayle: *chuckles* You know me so well. Still, I would argue the point! What you describe is not patience, but persistence and a refusal to give up on something, perhaps with a dash of forgiveness. When something is truly important to me, I will persist despite my impatience and wait for an opportunity despite the scarcity of them.

When it comes to people to whom I am attached especially, I would rather find a reason to forgive them than give up on them, even if at times it seems as if I'd rather be mad at them. The anger is usually borne of frustration because I want to forgive them but they won't cooperate in giving me a reason to do so. Or of sadness because it seems as if they'd rather walk away than acknowledge that they need forgiveness.

The only thing I will sometimes not forgive is dishonesty. I don't give my trust lightly, so if it is betrayed, it must be earned back, and I'll admit.... that's not easy to do.

You are right though. Sometimes too much 'patience' whatever the motivation behind it, can be as detrimental as too much impatience. Change is sometimes necessary for healing and growth.