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Whispers, Sweet Nothings.
 I'm starting to feel as though I'm getting a lot of crap from people inside of school and outside of school for keeping my virginity under marraige. It's a personal decision, so I try not to let it get to me. But I just came across this blog entry, and I decided to post it. It's a counter-arguement to a list of reasons why people should have sex before marraige. It does not belong to me. I bolded some of my favorite parts.Blog. 1) Sex is never the frontrunner in a marriage, and it shouldn’t be in any relationship. A relationship based on sex alone is lust, not love, and will not work out. Sex is a backseat issue in marriage, surprisingly. Money, time not spent together, and how each other drives are bigger arguments and involve more controversy in my marriage than sex ever will. We learned each other’s sexual preferences after marriage and are growing together and having fun being with each other. Sex alone should not change your whole relationship, unless you’re really that immature and shallow, and in that case, you shouldn’t even be married.
2) Marriage is not just a piece of paper. Marriage is committing yourself to love another person unconditionally until death parts you. If you’re not ready to do that, then you shouldn’t be getting married. Too many people think “Oh, well, if I get unhappy, I’ll just get a divorce.” Uh, no. Marriage is compromise and making it work for the best. You shouldn’t sign the document until you are ready, in love, and have gone through pre-marriage counseling.
3) If one partner wants to have sex all day and one isn’t very sexually active, love overcomes this. Two people in love will compromise, talk about it, and come to a decision. Sex shouldn’t cause problems in a marriage, but if it does, there are counselors.
4) Waiting may contribute to early marriages. So what? Statistics say “…both men and women there may be a "peak marriage age" in the mid-twenties. People who get married between the ages of 23-27 are much less likely to get divorced than those who marry as teens; they are also much more likely to be in high-quality marriages than people who marry in their late twenties or later.”
That being said:
People should get married when they are mature enough to be responsible about it. If you’re not brave enough to be selfless and love another person with all your heart, then you’re not brave enough to get married.
I love you, John. Thank you for accepting me for who I am and all of my values.
<33 PrimeRibby
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People can be "mature, responsible and brave enough" to get married regardless of whether they're virgins or not.