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Today I spend my whole day working. It was a boring day, like every other working day. I did have a nice icecream ^-^ (soft icecream with crushed nuts and sugary stuff) And so today I kept thinking about what to write in my journal and what to write in my upcoming column for the schoolpaper (Yeah, I was supposed to rest this weekend before getting to the paper stuff again) In the train I took homeward I ran into a group of youngsters, trying to take the train without purchasing a ticket. A behaviour which we in the Netherlands call: Zwartrijden. Translate this to English and we have: Blackriding. But that clearly is no good English. I suppose the English word for it would be: Faredodging. Anyway, that is gonna be my subject for the collumn. For the journal I made up another subject. One that interests all and has to do with everyone. A simple thing in life, yet one of the most complicated: Love

Love, what is it? what makes it love? Online dictionaries claim:



Wikipedia came up with a 7 chapters long essay kind of info, for those interested can go here.

After reading the short and comprehensive definition of the AskOxford and browsing through the long definition, I've made a theory:

Love almost always has to do with sex.

Although that theory can easily be taken down by a new kind of love nowadays: Cyberlove. Which is in my sense a different thing than Cybersex. The first being a friendship based on conversations and showing real character and the second being "just for the fun of it".
I've had both. And I must say. There is something missing in both kinds of relationship: Physical touch. Cyber just doesn't really seem real.

Real love however is a complicated thing. Real love involves spending real time with eachother in real environments. Meaning: you have to show your real self now or later. Or you can be master scenario maker like me and throw down a love story about yourself for your friends to eat and they won't know you are lying. Serious. I had a scenario running from my first year at school till last year. Which is a period of 4 years. And they would not have known now, if I had not told them. And no, my friends are no silly people. (or so their grades at school claim, I do sometimes think they are too naive) Back to the subject. Cyber life is just a part of life. And in real love, that life is exposed.

Now what defines love? Showing and/or having affection to an object or person? Having sexual intercourse with a person? (or object ofcourse) I supposed it is something between the two. However, showing affection doesn't necessarily mean you love someone and having affection doesn't mean you love someone.... Sex can be without love and love without sex, or so does theory say. So what is real love? Marriage?
Marriage itself is just a way to show the rest of the world two people are together. Whether there is real love going on in the relationship, only the ones in it can say. The real meaning of marriage is something like: to love and support your partner through health and sickness. Or so the pledge says. Some part of that is true... but nowadays people just don't cling to that much. What a shame.

Anyway, let's go to the more practical side of love. In real life, love doesn't come our way naturally. Oppurtunities do come our way. Grab them or die. Which actually does mean that the shy people on this world have a smaller chance of getting in a relationship than normal or bold guys. However, bold guys tend to be macho and attract the "blondes". Normal guys have a normal chance and may attract all kinds of girls. While shy guys have a small chance and may attract the bold girls, for those are mostly the ones who would be the first one to ask the boy to a date or something in that sense. Girls can be roughly divided into 3 groups: Shy, normal, slut. Which means: no flirt, little flirt, big flirt. Or so my point of view is. The fun thing nowadays is: there are actually more of type 3 people hanging around (bolds and sluts) than the other kinds. And the shy group probably has almost been wiped out by a phenomenon called: grouping. Which is the source of all the sluts and bolds.

Nowadays people tend to fling earlier than past time. My experience tells: my sisters never dated in their high school years. Look me, I have had 1 fling, 1 online relationship, 1 online fling and no serious stuff yet. But then again... I fall for wimps.

So I made you people read a whole page filled with text without a real conclusion.... Or did you people already stopped reading?