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I earlier had a little rant about Love. So here I have the continuation of it whee

So you have love, and what happens after it?
Either love sticks around, then everything will be fine and dandy....
But when love decides to leave you in a bottomless pit.... your life is gonna be a living hell.
Cause you see, to start a relationship, you don't need that much. A simple: "I love you and I want you to be mine" will get you far enough. To keep a relationship, you have to do a bit more: "I need you", "I missed you, where were you?", "Let's spend some useless time together." and what the hell you want. Breaking a relationship is a total different thing. It seems a simple: "I don't like you anymore" doesn't do the trick.
"I hate you" doesn't do the trick either. No, to break up requires a bit more than that, even when the real reason is just the lack of liking, you still have to weave around it an enormous web of things that don't work and things that bug you about your suppose to be significant other. Hours of painful thinking and serious talking is required. In the end your other might accept it and move on, otherwize it will stick and cling for the rest of your life. The one you so much used to love and still loves you will then make sure the rest of your life is so badly screwed. The other doesn't know though. NO! The only thing on that person's mind is: "I want you back!"
And the only thing you will be thinking is: "Let me be! I don't want you! Let me be!!" Sounds sad neh?
Luckily most of us are grown up enough to know that forcing things through is even worse, not only are you screwing up your own life, but also the one you so much love. Why not let go and see the one you love gain happiness? Wouldn't that be better? Wouldn't it be better to screw one life and not the other? "NO! Ofcourse not" thinks the simple minded cling on. "There is no happiness outside life with me!" Egocentric, selfish thought isn't it? But then the one who chose to break up is at fault too, for one's own happiness you had to hurt other's heart... but keeping up appearances and in the end hurting the other by living a lie is probably even more painfull.