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Yeah, I just watched a CBC program on sex with teenagers. It was called secrets, threy talkied to two chicks and then these two couples. They went on for awhile about basic things, and how little sex ed kids actually get these days and stuff like that. The two girls were 13 and 14, the couples were older. One couple was 15/17 and the other was 17/18. It was pretty intersting overall, good to know what the rest of the world thinks and does about sex, because I know for a fact that in that general region of being a teenager I am most definitely more sheltered. My parents are classic christians, I was told what sex was when I was like 12, since then my parents and I haven't discussed it at all. My parents are in general skirmish around sex, they are sooo tolerant of violence and stuff in movies, but they can't take anything sexual at all, not ewven like a make-out scene, it's wierd.

This documentary was really intersting and kind of shocking, like they intywerviwed a bunch of freaking 8th graders and stuff, a lot of them have had sex, even more of them have had/given blowjobs and the like. Dating isn';t the norm, friends with privaleges is. I semi knew about all of that stuff already, so it wasn't a huge shock. The shock was the parents of the kids they used in the film. They were so open, and they talked so freely about it with their parents, like it was nothing. When the two girls went out to a party, the farewell wasn't like 'don't drink, be safe' it was 'make sure you bring a condom with you'. I'm very supportive of safe sex, it sure as hell beats getting pregnant or a STD or some s**t like that, but my parents really aren't like that. Maybe a lot of parents are and mine are just freaks who avoiud sex as much as possible, to avoid the subject, pretend it's not there. That's probably notr the safest thing to do, I know the basics sure, talk about it when it comes up, it wasn't really anything i've thought mahjorly abvout. It wasn't a huge part of my life, I'm a bit of a square, i'm in band for crissakes. I've been thinking about it more, which I guess is normal, apparently. But I see the parents in these movies, and they have these opinions and it's not the abstinance stuff that i know my parents would shovel at me if they were asked. It's stuff like 'i trust my kids, i hope they're careful' ' I make sure they've got a condom with them when they go out.' I don't carry condoms, I don't have casual sex either. I also don't plan on having casual sex, but i also see myself a bit more likely to randomly get drunk then say, Kim, so you really never know what's gonnna happen when you're drunk, as miuch as i hope i'll never get drunk to the point that i'll become that unaware of my surroundings. But it'lll probably happen and hoperfully i'll get lucky, the point it. I think sex is special, something that happens between two people who care about each other, but it's not as sacred as having to hang on to your virginity till your married, because in todays society its just plain old unreasonable to think that it's going to happen. As teens, we aren't rebellious really, society has changed alltogether and parents may or may not have trouble accepting it.

I'll probvably have sex before I'm married, yeah I can see it hapenning. But the risks are huge, bigger for me then a guy. Because I can get pregnant and I'm against abortion. Unless you've gotten raped or something. But if you chose to have sex and you got pregnant, well then you're screwed and you get to keep the baby, wehter you put it up for adoption is your chocie, hopefully you'd make the right one based on whatever your living style is. However, right now I'm still a virgin, and it really is a bit of a surprise to watch this video and see that alot of kids that i have like 2-3 years on aren't anymore. Is casual sex really the way of the future? And how would you go about that with parents? I mean, what if you wanna be extra safe and go on the Pill or something? If you're doing this and you wanna keep it from your parents how would you pull that? Ypu live with your parents, they would find out at sojme point that you're taking the pill and not telling them, for that reason that woulsd assume and then you'd be in s**t, there'd be nothing you could do about it. Condoms don't ahve the best success rate, and you can never have too much apparently. I don't really know where I was going with this, I just watched this video and it really got me thinnking about how sheltered my world is, because what they showed on that video isn't my world. Everywhere I go I see people depict the world as teens see it, and it doesn't seem to be what I see. Kids who;'re like 12, getting drunk at parties and girls giving guys head so that they won't get dumnped. Friends with privilages, something we've always joked about but i've never seen it happen. I've glimpsed the world they've shown, Dot seems to be a part of it in some way, because she goes to her drinking parties and makes out with random girls so it seems. So this world obviously does exist, my cousin Marie lives there too. She's been drinking and that kind of stuff since she was 1,, but she lives in Canso where you can get beer off your neighbor since the store can't sell it to you, that dpe4sn't exempt her, but it's my excuse for the way she is. And the way that I'm not. I've been drunk, with marie actually, and her dad and mom. It wasn't that awesome, it didn't suck. I get giddy when I'm drunk so there ya go, not a big change from what i am usually.

But sex for 13 yr olds? I just can't faothom it, I dunno what this world has come to really anymore. Who knows, i mean, how many people do i know that aren't virgins anymore? I only know one guy who's for sure had sex and that Erik and that's because erik hung out with 20yr olds because erik can pass for being at least 19 even though i'm a good 8 months oler then he is.

In short, I've realized that I don't know jack s**t about this kind of thing and that I live in a sheltered little box. I always knew I was in this box, and I've got some good people here with me. However, it's the people I don't know, the ones who're 3years youner then I am that've got me worried.

Please ignore horrible spelling, I'm tpying this really fast and was kind of rambling a lot.
Thoughts on this?