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Okay. I guess this is another rant. xD I don't know why, but I'm feeling pretty opinionated right now, about many many things. And I need to get them off my chest or I'll explode. xD Or something! blaugh

Okay, so. Up until recently, I thought that love was just something chemical. Like, we were addicted to the endorphins that the brain gives off when we're in love, so there's really no FEELING there, just the chemical reactions. Of course, I'd never been in love either, so how could I believe in something I'd never felt? Although, thinking about it, my idea of heaven is being surrounded by God's total and unconditional love for the rest of eternity. So that previous statement isn't totally true; I PRETENDED to not believe in love. Because I didn't want to get hurt. It was a self preservation thing. But I longed for it. I'm a hopeless romantic, I can't help it. 4laugh

What was my point again? Oh yeah. xd

So anyway, even though now I'm a believer (hey, wouldn't that be a catchy song?) I'm not a believer in love at first sight. I don't think that love is something that can just be flung around casually. Though I do that, I'm so incredibly guilty of that. Americans do it a lot too, I've noticed. Though if I really took the time to think it out, I would probably say something along the lines of, "I'm too eager to have people accept me, so I use the term 'love' to get them to accept me." Or something like that. Anyway, back to the subject. Love at first sight = big fat no. Because you don't know anything about that person! What if they're not anyone they look like? For example, he dresses like a biker, but he's really into girly movies and figure skating? Appearances can be deceiving. Or if he's clean cut and polit but he's into sadomasochism? Or something? Yeah, I'm going to quit while I'm ahead. xD

So you see this guy that you think, "OMG, I'm falling in love with him!" Well, could it also be that you're falling in love with WHAT YOU THINK HE MIGHT BE? Because there's no way in hell that you know anything about him just by looking at him. Which I guess falls under the last point. *pause* Anyway. He's cute, he's looking at you, and all the endorphins are being released into your body, making you nervous and happy and everything. But it's not love. It's just lust. There's no way to form anything other than a physical relationship in five seconds. Which is why I totally don't buy into Romeo and Juliet. Yeah, it's WILDLY romantic, but it's also highly unrealistic. If they'd survived, they would have hated each other in a year. Or two. Or six. But they would have found out things about the other one that they didn't like, and then it would have been pure misery.

So, I admit that I'm a romantic. But it's buried beneath the surface. I don't like appearing to be one, probably because I think that most romantics are wishy washy and pathetic. Or I've trained myself to think like that. xD Such is the enigma that is me-- I'm a walking contradiction! I hate romantics, but I am one! Imagine that! xd So anyway, I'm a romantic at heart. I love anything that's so incredibly insanely heart-palpitatingly romantic that you can't see straight afterwards. But I never APPEAR to like it. I'll roll my eyes, sigh, groan, and act as though I'm not loving it. But I really am loving it. I guess it comes from my lack of trust in people that I don't know well. Or I never know how to get back at the person that DID all that for me. Or I feel like I don't deserve it. (That's probably it.) So what was my point again?

Oh yeah, so I'm a romantic, and I agree that Romeo and Juliet has a TON of that in it, but I just don't think it's really possible for that to happen in real life. And the movies and books and everything that have that in there just really tend to piss me off. Because it's too highly overrated! Things like that really don't work out in real life! Now, I will say that I think it's possible for two people to have a remembered bond left over from a past life. But I don't think that you're absolutely DESTINED to be with that person for the rest of eternity. (see entry on soul mates) Because you're different in this life than you were in a previous one.

So I think I may have just succeeded in confusing myself. Or setting myself straight. I'm not sure which. blaugh