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I got my mom pretty upset yesterday because I told her what me and my therapist were talking about and told her maybe it would be better if I moved out. I don't know where I would go, because wherever I went I would feel like a burden to whomever I stayed with. emo I don't know what to do right now and I feel horrible because I think I made my mom cry, but it is very hard to be around the house waiting for my dad to blow up and being around him when he does blow up. I don;t know if the reason for that affecting me that much is because I'm really sensitive or what. It is really hard for me to make any progress becuase I never feel safe. I know that my parents love me but if really is hard to be around them when they are that way. It makes me sad when I think about moving out because I don't know if I would be allowed to move back in if I had a problem, and my mom is REALLY attached to me, she says stuff like she wouldn't know what she would do if I wasn't there, and then she says that eventually it will be okay if I move out and it is really confusing. I think that Iwould feel horrible if I left because I don't want to hurt my mom. I don't know if my dad would even care. I'm just really mixed up right now, but at least it doesn't shows. I just feel troubled all the time. sweatdrop yes, I know I'm being a drama queen, but it's not on purpose dramallama .


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  • User Comments: [1]
    You know...moving out is a VERY big decision...it entails leaving school and starting to work full time to pay your own living expenses... I told my mom that I would move out as soon as I was 21 and she started crying to...she said that I couldn't leave her alone with all the crap she has to deal with everyday... Actually our situations are kinda SCARY similiar... :shock: At first she told me pretty much over her dead body...hehe yeah she said other things that I dare not repeat...but the thing of it is my mom explained to me that she needed to have me around so that she wouldn't have to take on all the pressures by herself otherwise she would IMPLODE!!! She said that she loved me and she didn't understand why I would want to leave...I told her that I felt like I was a burden because at that time we were in a really tight financial situation...I let her know that it wasn't fair that they had to pay for me when i should get a job and start supporting myself... Well my mom put it this way...I would make aLLOT more money if I went to college and finished my career then if I wanted to, I could leave....but you know what really kept me at home...it was the fact that I would miss my siblings too much...I love my sister and brother to death...the day that we all separate and have to live apart is going to be hard for me...I just couldn't imagine a day without them.... But the way that you talk about how your afraid of your dad is just not healthy...Did I tell you that when I was 14 my dad slapped me...from that moment on I was afraid he would do it again...its been 6 years since then and I just got rid of that fear a few months ago...this is what processed in my mind... What am I fearing...I fear my father...I fear his violence...why? then I just kept following this train of thought.... I fear him hitting me...I fear him making me feel weak...I fear my own weaknesses... Then I had this elaborate plan spring into my head that if he ever hit me again I would leave...that I would just take off and never return...I actually followed this train of thought for a long time only seeing my own needs and not looking outside of myself...then I saw my mom crying again...my dad had hurt her emotionally...as I sat there and soothed her I thought to myself...what am I doing? My dad feels that he needs this power...but he doesn't deserve it...by thinking that I would leave I was just giveing in...then I had an entirely new idea come to mind... I fear doing things for myself...I fear taking that next step of standing up to him...so one day I did...I just stood up to my dad...he was shocked he didn't say anything...he was angry as hell but I looked him straight in the eye and I told him: "You know why I did this...its because I am you...your blood runs through my veins and you made me what I am...I talked back because you would do it too...everything you see before you is YOU...I am your own reflection" My dad stared real hard at me and just sat there and started thinking...he has never spoken to me about that incident between us but he acts much differently around me...we became more of equals...just a little bit but I can actually talk to him now...which is weird...but good... Okay so at this point I have rambled beyond belief...I just thought I should tell you about what happened to me...sorry if I intrude...its just your my friend...and I kinda feel like...well this is happening to you and it had happened to me to...so lets both figure it out together...oh geebus Im rambling again... peace

    comment The Grim Lady · Community Member · Sat Oct 28, 2006 @ 05:32am
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