Think about these when a relationship
-He/she understands me. (All of the time? Every time? Come on let's be honest here.)
-He/she is awesome (Come on now - could you still be in the infatuation stage?)
-We have everything in common. (This can get a little boring don't you think!)
-We never argue about anything. (Give me a break!)
-Our relationship is in a good place now. (What about last week or last year or next week or next year?)
-Flexibility and compromise are the bywords of our relationship. (Every time - yea - right!)
-I love everything about him or her. (Some stuff just hasn't surfaced yet, just give it time
folks.)
-We can talk about anything without conflict. (I hate to call people liars, but...)
So, are there perfect relationships? No, because there are no perfect people. Are there successful relationships? Yes, millions of them. What is the difference between perfect and successful? Re-read the previous paragraph and you will now see the difference. Here, I'll help you.
- He/she understands me. (No - he or she doesn't but can accept you for who you are anyway.)
- We have everything in common. (It is the ability to manage differences in relationships that counts.)
- We never argue about anything. (We can have conflict without invalidating each other.)
- Our relationship is in a good place now. (Good is defined as the present. We stay focused on what is now - not what was, has been or could be.)
- Flexibility and compromise are the bywords of our relationship. (We keep our ego in check.)
- I love everything about him or her. (I don't like everything but it is who she/he is and I can learn to love unconditionally.)
- We can talk about anything without conflict. (We have learned to be honest with feelings and opinions without the need to be right or challenge each other.)
 mxnsxrrxt · Mon Apr 19, 2010 @ 03:03am · 0 Comments |
