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Honestly, I think the harder you try to find someone, the less likely you are to get it.

I have friends who want boyfriends or girlfriends so badly, they, as you said, go with someone just for the sake of being with someone before they even get to know that person. Unfortunately when that happens, you often find that you discover characteristics of that person that you don't like -- that you really don't know them at all -- and so, those relationships tend to be very short.
My suggestion is always to start as friends first, then see if you guys both want to take it a step further.


(Read further if you want my story. Stop now if other's success stories are not for you sweatdrop )
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For me, I started out hating the concept of relationships -- the whole boyfriend-girlfriend thing and the crying, complaining, and drama that came with it. I was repulsed by it, and the mere thought of getting myself involved in all that crap gave me twitches. Sure, I could look at some pretty guys and crush over them, but I'd try not to show it, much less tell them! Even if I did drop a few very subtle hints time to time, I really didn't know what I'd do if they ever liked me back, so I took joy in being single. (Hey, there's no attachment, and you're free to look around and act as you please!)
Well, in my group of friends, there was a boy, he was a bit standoffish and only talked to a few select people -- even then, most of his comments were sarcasm. He wasn't too bad looking, but I was interested in someone else at the time, and so was he. He was just a friend of a friend.
In the second semester of the year, I was put in a PE class with him. Being the hyperactive girl that I was, I was overjoyed that finally there was someone I knew in a class with me, and I made many attempts to converse with him albeit to his annoyance. As the rest of the year progressed, I got to know him a bit, and he began to open up to me a little. (We even had a time where we played this 'game' trying to guess each other's crush while wheedling clues out of the other.) But after many months and many more details in between, we somehow ended up liking each other. We've been together for two years(coming this October) since we decided to create the 'together' title for ourselves, and we're still very close. He's the first one I've ever shared this intimacy with, and I think that, on my definition of love, I can truly say I do love him.
Even thus, I still carry some old anti-relationship habits(if you've noticed my reluctance of using 'boyfriend' or 'girlfriend' as an adjective rolleyes )

But all in all, love is possible if you take the time to let it grow. It's not something you can force. 3nodding

(This was just a quote from a post I made, so it doesn't really look like a journal entry yet. Modification will be made later when I feel like it XP)